When it comes to the nitty gritty of lovemaking, the penis can make or break a great sexual experience. But what if it isn't up to par with the standard you're expecting? If a penis could explain itself, here's what it would like you to know:

1. Don't freak out at it's original size

By original size we mean pre-erection. All penises end up looking the same when they're soft. On average, a penis is about four inches long when flaccid. An erect penis averages six inches. But bear in mind, for most women it isn't the length that will satisfy but how hard and responsive (eg. how quickly aroused) a penis is. So size isn't really an issue in bed. However, if his manhood is abnormally small (if he has what's called a micropenis), or unusually large, then you may have a problem getting the best out of your wet joyride.

2. Try anything to pique it's interest

You really don't have to be a penis-rocket scientist to get your man's love bone to work for you. The penis responds most dramatically to direct contact. It's especially sensitive at its head where the principal nerve endings produce a guy's sexual pleasure and orgasm. But how it gets aroused is entirely based on sexual preference. Some men like it soft and gentle, while others prefer it rough. Some respond to the friction of dry touch, while some like it moist and wet. Some guys like slow, rhythmic action, while some respond best to rapid, irregular motion. Either way, the penis is grateful for any kind of action so don't be shy. Try different moves to see which your man responds best to.

3. Help him when he's nervous

There could be many reasons why your guy could lose his erection and be unjolly. Medical reasons such as diabetes, heart disease, hormonal disorders and side effects from medication could be a cause, but most of the time it's performance anxiety or what he's distracted with. This would normally happen on a first-time sexual encounter, where he's worried he may not measure up to your hypothetical sexual expectations. So if you sense your guy is getting clumsy, tensing up and worrying about pleasing you, stop what you're both doing and talk to him about the anxiety he's feeling. Your acceptance will mean a lot to him and it'll take the pressure off him.

4. They like it hot

Penises work best in warmer climate, and they work better with warm lube, warm hands... just warmth in general. If they're touched by crisp cold air or water, the skin contracts, the scrotal sac shrinks, and the testicles retract.

5. Keep him hanging on

If you'd like him to last longer, get him to withdraw. Then using your forefinger and thumb, grab his penis below its head forcefully. This will delay his urge to ejaculate. Once his urge has passed, wait a minute or two before getting back into action. He may partially lose his erection after the squeeze, but it's not a common thing. His full erection will return shortly after, especially after you give him a little attention.